You recently got married and now it is the time to consummate your relationship. But, your nerves are chilled even from the thought of the performance of the carnal act. This means, you might be apprehensive about the act of physical indulgence that maybe a result of any of the reasons: trauma you have been through in your earlier life, or are just nervous about the fact how you will initiate and how exactly it will turn out to be. Or it might be that you are just too shy and conservative that you can not even think of revealing yourself in front of someone. Though you love your spouse a lot, but when it comes to physical intimacy, lack of it can turn a loving relationship into a sour one, making your relationship suffer a lot. So, what steps should be taken to consummate your relationship and take it to next level? We are here to help you out.
Get Over Your Fears This is a major step to start with. The inhibitions are nothing but fears which keep you from enjoying the carnal pleasures. So first of all, you need to be mentally prepared for the stuff. You should decide yourself that you want to let your hair loose and be relaxed. You should make yourself ready and feel from the inside that you want to lose your sexual inhibitions, and then only will your body respond according to you. Don’t let the peer pressure or the pressure from partner get on you; you will only be able to relax if you will feel that you are relaxed. If you are able to convince yourself about it then the battle is half won.
Your Partner Your Love The next thing will be not concentrating on your sexual relationship and rather rediscovering your love for each other. This will make way for uninhibited physical relationship. Concentrate on things which you like to do with your partner, such as, going on long walks, visit to beaches, going for movies, having meals together, candlelit dinners and other such mushy romantic stuff. Remind each other of the love and care and complement each other.
Get Into It Try acting less sexually inhibited. This will slowly get on to your mind and you yourself will gradually adopt it as your nature. Dress up sexy, feel sexier, feel good about your body and flaunt it for your spouse, use perfumes which you feel are alluring and evocative, be flirtatious, smile, giggle and act like a confident person. Slowly you will feel intoxicated with passion and you will yourself feel more confident and ready for anything which comes next.
Think About It Use whatever literature you can find, which you feel is arousing. One of the major reasons can be that you never gave it a thought that what all arouses you. So give it a serious thought now and think about the act, which is the part that arouses you and when do you feel inhibited. Through this exercise you will be able to know the reason behind your inhibitions and the good thing is that you will be able to know what all you like about the act. So, from the next time, concentrate on the things which you like rather than the things you are scared of.
Communicate Your Fears Communication is the key to solving problems, so talk to your partner about the problems you face while and before the act. This way, your spouse too will gather some information about what kind of techniques he/she should use to keep your interest in the game. And this way, you will be a little more confident the next time your partner tries to dial up the intimacies. Turn-ons will evolve after mutual understandings grow.
Trust Your Partner And Be Trustworthy This means you should trust your partner in all the matters, be it social or intimate. Be sure, he/she won’t ever do a thing that will ever hurt you physically, emotionally or mentally. While discussing these sensitive matters try not to laugh or wince, even if you find out your partner’s comments ludicrous. Be supportive and understanding as these are matters which, at times, leave a scar on the psyche of a person.
If after trying everything above if you still find your sexual inhibitions stopping you from enjoying the carnal fruit then you should consult a doctor or a psychologist.